Initiating activity involves planning, organization and motivation. Planning can be complicated, involving lots of steps. For a person with Alzheimer’s disease (whose short-term memory is very limited) or for a person with frontotemporal degeneration (whose executive function is seriously compromised) “complicated” can easily translate into “overwhelming”. When things are too hard for a brain with dementia, frustration often results, and motivation dissipates.
To be sure, it can be hard to observe and absorb these changes when a family member was formerly a champion self- starter; creative and keeping busy all the time. We have to remember that the changes of dementia are disease-related, and brain-based. It is not because the person is just being stubborn, difficult, rebellious, or is out to exasperate us. The person is simply reacting to their situation with the brain that they have to work with today, not from the brain they used to have. We must have compassion for the reality of a broken brain, if we are to give care and responses that will encourage and accept the person where they are at, and in so doing continue to strengthen our relationship with that person, and best serve their needs.
Here are ten tips from the Association for Frontotemporal Degeneration about what you as a care partner can try when your family member with dementia exhibits apathy. These suggestions were created specifically for persons who care for those with frontotemporal degeneration, but I believe there is much here that can be helpful to those who care for persons living with other forms of dementia as well:
- Check your emotions – do your best to maintain a positive tone. An angry annoyed tone will be understood by the person with dementia, even if your words are not.
- Practice patience. People with dementia may need extra time to process information and to respond.
- Develop activity interventions that are based on the needs and interests that have motivated the person in the past. Be sure to modify past interests to current abilities.
- Keep things simple.
- Do not rely on verbal cues and communication alone. When you think about creating activities that might spark interest for someone, consider things you can show the person, music or sounds they can listen to…What might you just put in their hands, without any words? See what happens!
- Introduce multi-sensory stimulation one sense at a time, so it’s not too overwhelming.
- Start an activity together, (folding laundry, putting away dishes) standing side by side. Let the person continue the activity on their own.
- Plan personal care at the person’s best time of day.
- Provide just one or two choices to limit overwhelm.
- Remember that a bored expression doesn’t necessarily mean that the person derives zero benefit or enjoyment in the activity. Remember too that apathy can come and go. Look for the openings, and use those opportunities to best advantage.
--Marysue Moses, Ebenezer Dimensions Program Coordinator